yes, i'm finally going to make good my promise to blog about what i promised to blog about in my previous post.. might be quite a long post, i dunno, i'll see where it leads me to. (:

as i was sitting there at the dining table in the wedding reception, listening in to the solemnization ceremony, witnessing the bonding of two people, hearing them say the matrimony vows, i can't help but wonder, why is the divorce rate so high? why is it that so many people take these vows so lightly, so flamboyantly that two years, five years, ten years down the road, they can just say i give up, i quit? is it really the issue of having choices? in the olden days, in the days of arranged marriages, no matter how bad the marriage is, the couple stays as a couple, through thick and thin.. why is it now that when things happen in a marriage now, one of the options that come into mind is - divorce? last time, people despised divorcees; now, they're just another group of people..

don't get me wrong, i'm not against these people per se.. people have never been wrong to me, especially in this sense.. i do understand that sometimes circumstances can strain a relationship, that sometimes people change and everything, but isn't this the case for the olden times too? why have we, as a society, begin to think of divorce as an option out?

then when Pastor Lia preached about the church ethos on sunday, parts of it became clearer to me.. these people are looking for love, yes, but they were too impatient to find out whether the one they are going to marry really is the one the will love till the end of their days.. impatient people do the right thing at the wrong time getting married is a right thing to do, but doing it three months, five months, one year into a relationship is not the right time.. it's just simply not enough time to get to know a person fully in this period of time, especially if you're talking about marriage..

but people nowadays have pressures from both themselves and the people around them to faster get married, or they just want to rush into a relationship when they're not ready.. in the end, when circumstances happen, they can't stand it anymore, and they just.. give up.

yet when these things happen, is giving up the right thing to do? foolish people do the wrong thing at the wrong time divorce is never the right thing to do.. matrimony vows are sacred.. they are not meant to be broken.. rules are meant to set the boundary, to let people know what is the higher authority's view on certain issues, and man and woman are meant to remain man and woman.. let's not talk about Christianity, but is there any - any religion in this world that says divorce is ok, if you're not happy with the person you're with, don't bother trying to rebuild the relationship, just divorce? none that i know of.

what irks me is that there are so many people who get married, turn out to not be happy with the one they're with, divorce, and continue in this cycle again.. remember, i'm not against the person per se, i just don't understand why they cannot bring themselves out for a moment, clear their minds and move on without having to go down that vicious cycle? >.<

enough of that already lol.









2009 has started out pretty well, despite a few stumbling blocks.. things have happened, both good and bad, and i'm glad to say that i've learnt from both the good things and the bad ones..

this year, my motto will be love.. it's a season of love, and something i really want more this year.. Pastors said before that the ten commandments from God can be summarized into simple two: love God, love people, and i think that in 2009, at least for this part of 2009, i need to love the people around me more, just shower them with random bouts of love, just to let them know that i cherish them, and that they are important to me.. and i already have a few ideas in mind already.. heh heh.. so don't be surprised if i surprise you with something suddenly! haha..

random quote i got from the net:
Faith makes all things possible.
Love makes them easy.

~ Unknown

faith will let me see the impossible, but love will let me touch it. (: